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Ilaria Calussi, BACP

Credentials
BACP
Experience
25 years
Practising in
United Kingdom
Languages
English, Italian
Sessions
Online only
Client ages
Adults, 18 and over

Works with Relationship issuesFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseParenting issuesADHD

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Ilaria Calussi helps people who are worried about relationships, parenting, trauma, ADHD and family conflict. Ilaria is a non-binary counsellor with 25 years of experience who speaks English and Italian. The first conversations focus on what matters most to the person seeking help and on practical steps they can try between sessions.

Ilaria draws on several ways of working to suit each person’s needs. Sessions are usually conversational and down-to-earth.

Background and approach

People can expect a mix of listening, reflection and structured tasks to try at home. The goal is to strengthen connections and reduce patterns that cause pain. Before moving into independent practice, Ilaria gathered wide experience in the UK health and social care sector.

Roles have included managing school-based services, supervising social care teams, and work at national services for autism. She also teaches psychology and counselling at the Open University. Her approach blends Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centred Therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, alongside Emotionally-Focused and Gottman work where helpful.

That combination is used to address attachment wounds, communication breakdowns, and emotional patterns that keep problems stuck. Ilaria adapts to each person’s life circumstances, including caring responsibilities, chronic illness or neurodivergence. Sessions aim to be practical and paced to suit the person.

People come away with clearer ways to relate to others and to themselves.

How relational approaches work online

Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early connections shape present relationships and emotions. Online sessions can help people notice patterns in close relationships and practise new ways of relating in everyday life.

Client-Centred Therapy centres the person’s experience and pace, giving space to be heard and understood. This approach suits people who need time to make sense of feelings and decide their own next steps.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) looks at how thoughts, feelings and actions interact and teaches practical techniques to change unhelpful cycles. It is often used for anxiety, low mood and specific behaviour patterns that cause stress.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will map out your goals and try methods that match your needs and preferences. This is a collaborative process and adjustments are made along the way.

Online therapy with this counsellor is offered by video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text-based messaging. Video sessions allow face-to-face conversation, phone sessions work well if bandwidth is limited, and messaging suits brief check-ins or reflection between meetings. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, family commitments and different time zones.
What kinds of concerns does Ilaria help with?
Ilaria works with relationship problems, parenting stress, trauma and abuse, and ADHD-related challenges. Additional focus areas include attachment issues, adoption and foster care matters, communication problems and chronic illness concerns.
How would you describe the therapeutic style?
The style is relational and practical, combining listening with concrete steps to try between sessions. Sessions often mix gentle exploration of feelings with exercises that help change unhelpful patterns.
What is Ilaria’s background and experience?
Ilaria has 25 years of experience working across mental health and social care in the UK, including roles in school-based services, social care supervision, and national autism services.
What professional credentials and location are listed?
Ilaria is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, shown as BACP, and is based in the United Kingdom.
Which languages are offered and can international clients be seen?
Sessions are offered in English and Italian. International clients can be accepted.
What session formats are available?
Therapy is offered by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to suit different needs and schedules.
How much does therapy cost?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with this therapist?
To start, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to therapist availability.

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Experience
25 years
Registered with
BACP
Languages
English, Italian

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